Her Executioner

by Kim Sisto Robinson

The day he executed my sister was like any other day.

I was mowing the lawn listening to Pillars of the Earth on my headset. I was at the part where the boys in the castle were throwing rocks at helpless cats just because they could. Cornish hens with little red potatoes were baking in the oven on low heat. The weather in Duluth was unseasonably warm and blue and happy. I wore a Lady Gaga t-shirt and faded black shorts. The same tattered clothes I ended up wearing to the hospital that night. Not sure why I remember these insignificant, tedious details, but I do.

Perhaps, because this is when the earth fell off her axis.

They say your life flashes before you at the end of your days. If that’s true, I believe my sister was thinking of our childhood, big fat Italian dinners, bologna sandwiches slathered in miracle whip, sprinting through Aunt Carol’s sprinkler in May, and her three fatherless boys, whom she didn’t get the chance to watch grow up, get married, and become a doctor, a carpenter, an FBI agent. Oh, god, god, I hope she knew she was the love of my life. Did she call out my name?

He left work early that day, said he had appointments scheduled, people to see, things to do. His actual plan was to kill my sister. He had already changed the insurance policies and bought a small beretta gun. He had already said goodbye to his wombless mother. I imagine him waiting in a dim corner like one of Kafka’s insects for her to get home from work. A predator. Monster. My brother-in-law. Before he pulled the trigger, I wonder if he uttered a prayer to whomever murderers’ utter prayers to, if he took communion, ‘this is my broken body; this is my blood.’ I imagine he said something like, “I love you. I hate you. Nobody else can have you.”

This is Not Love.

She was fifteen when they met. A baby compared to him, a Lolita. He lured her with his long hair, hockey status, and Master’s degree. He picked Kay up after school like a daddy and waited on our porch on 65th Street for her to get home from other engagements. None of us realized at the time there was a name for that, “Stalking.” Abuse begins early like a slow simmer. My sister was too good for him, too pretty, too nice. These qualities are what killed her in the end. In truth, what he desired was a grand piano to sit in the back room quietly without being played.

At 5:15 PM, I got the call, “Did you know? Did you hear the news? Mike shot Kay.”

I fell to the floor, lost my breath, my saliva, my mind, and suddenly found myself entering a white room smelling of Tabu perfume and sweating armpits. My sister was hooked up to ventilators, tubes, and ugly needles. Her hair had been newly tinted with caramel highlights, and she looked as if she’d just left the hair salon except for the blood that had dried and hardened on the right side of her head. Black mascara leaked like teardrops under both eyelids. Two guards stood at the door like bouncers at a nightclub, and I found out later this is the procedure they must follow after somebody is murdered.

Kay and I had tickets for Sex and the City that night. Buttered popcorn with tons of salt. Diet cokes. We used to giggle about which character we were. I was Carrie, the writer. She was Charlotte, the conformist. It was one of our rare sister dates. We’d drink wine afterwards and discuss paint colors for her new apartment. Eventually, we’d end up talking about Mike. “I wish he’d die,” she often said. “I wish he would’ve gone to Iraq. I wish…I wish.”

She stayed until it was too late.

I circled around her bed like a crazy person with Mad Cow disease. “Wake up, wake up, please, wake up.” I know she heard me, wanted to rise up from the stiff, starched sheets. I know she realized she should’ve left him years earlier. After the first kick, the first, “you’re a cunt,” the first encounter. I know so many things now. For example, We cannot save somebody who doesn’t want to be saved; cannot change somebody who doesn’t want to be changed.

Sometimes, I thank God her executioner did his homework beforehand. One or two bullets would’ve placed her in a brain injury facility, but the third bullet did the job properly. At least, he did that right. One right thing in 25 years. When the doctor walked into the waiting room, we erected from our chairs like obedient children.

“Is she awake? Can she come home?”

He was detached, like that fictional character, Slender Man. Featureless. Just standing there shaking his head.

I despised him and his chalky skin. I wasn’t prepared for whatever he was about to say, or not say. When your sister is murdered, they should provide you with warm-grandma quilts, bible verses, Oliver, Dickenson, Pinot Noir in fancy flute glasses, brie cheese and crackers, something more than this.

But he simply stood there shaking his faceless face.

Don’t. Don’t say it. Don’t fucking say it.

I wanted to plug my ears, finish mowing the lawn, push the clock hands back to May 25th, May 24th,1978. I wanted to break every finger on Mike’s right hand, give him a piece of what was left of my mind, ask him why he married my sister. I wanted to curse a silent God, tell him I lost my religion. But more than that, more than anything, I wanted to scream, scream, scream until every bit of darkness emptied from my body. Half a heart beating on a tiled floor.

Before the memorial service, I drove to Target to find a suitable dress, nylons, lipstick. Why did it matter when my sister was nearly buried in the cold, Minnesota soil? Why did anything matter? Since the liquor store was on the way, I also bought two or was it three bottles of wine for later on. It would’ve been easy to become an alcoholic, a drug addict, somebody who placed heavy rocks inside her pockets and marched directly into Lake Superior.

So damn easy to become nothing at all.

I was told I read ee Cummings at my sister’s funeral, but my memory is a blur. The fact is, all I remember is standing at a podium staring out into a massive crowd of spectators wondering why I was there. Many of them were crying, blotting their noses, and undoubtedly whispering something like, “Oh, dear, why did she stay with a man like that?”

He was never a man.

I find it astonishing how the mind and body can survive such pain, such immense biting and burning of internal organs, how a sisterless sister can keep breathing, how broken pieces of humans can be glued back together again, again. What they don’t tell you is grieving never ends; it’s only born into the universe and doesn’t expire until you do.

Before they turned off the breathing machines, my sister’s lungs, liver, and eyes were removed and donated to people on waiting lists. It offers me comfort to know somebody, somewhere is walking around with those big brown eyes, those same eyes that have witnessed such suffering are now gazing into endless sapphire skies and flung open cages exclaiming, “I’m free, free, free.”

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Kim Sisto Robinson is an educator for the Duluth School District. Her work has appeared in Migrations, Glass Women, Scary Mommy, Bella Online, Rebelle Society, and Feminine Collective. She was awarded the Men as Peacemakers Award in 2015 for her work with domestic abuse. Her blog in honor of her sister, Kay, is entitled, My Inner Chick. Her Facebook page is: https://www.facebook.com/MyInnerChick/

7 Responses to “Her Executioner”

  1. Love you💋💋💋

  2. I can’t press the ‘like’ button because my eyes are blinded by tears.

  3. […] Her Executioner […]

  4. I e-met Miss Kim years ago. She has inspired me in ways too numerous to say here. Her posts are often heartbreaking, poignant, challenging, educational, and yes, funny and heartwarming because that’s who Kay is. I never met Kay – but I will recognize her in heaven because of Kim’s wonderful way with words. I’ve never met a writer and sister with such an anointed and also miraculous way with her heart, honesty and words. This post is the perfect example – Kay is love and Kim helps that live on.

  5. Powerful, Kim. Brutally vivid with a message that must not be ignored. Love to you and to Kay in memory. <3 <3 <3

  6. Your words Kim…
    Kay will live forever. Thanks for telling your story, her story.
    Always
    xoxo

  7. I felt this to my bones. Your words tear deep into my soul with a chilling powerful push, as they always do. Every time I read about your story, Kay’s story, you teach me more about the layers of grief and pain and love and strength that lives in you- and I learn more about the monstrous evil that kept Kay captive. Thank you for shining the light on this darkness that so many endure. I’m so grateful God equipped you with the gift of writing, which you continue to use to reach hearts and change lives through this heart-breaking story and Kay’s unforgettable memory.

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